And we all deserve sunshine in our lives.
Love Sarah xx
Were it not for getting spliced two years ago last month my Hubby and I would be celebrating our ‘old’ anniversary this week, the one that marks our first date…12 years ago on October 19th. Gosh I was a mere 19 years old then! Thinking about that special night, in a tacky pub in East London where it all began I have a lot to be grateful for…I met and fell in love with my best friend, the father of my beautiful child. It all sounds so perfect…
…But believe me it aint! Marriage is in fact bloody hard work. And sometimes it’s monotonous too. It takes a lot of work and commitment to ensure you’re falling in love with your spouse every single day – but unless you do – unless you make sure that you are in the words of Audrey Hepburn “very married” cracks begin to show – and once that rot has set in, you’ve a lot more work to do than if you consistently maintain things!
I have more than my share of imperfect wife moments. I’m grumpy all the time due to lack of sleep and I’m very good at “shutting down” when upset due to hating confrontation. My Hubby, well he can be quite ‘cave-man’, sometimes treating me like the ‘little-woman’ and is such a planner he forgets to enjoy the here and now – which is oh so precious now we’re parents. BUT our imperfections have always been part of the deal so love him and loathe them, we sometimes have to simply swallow what annoys us about each other and instead embrace the warts and all.
So for all you soon-to-be or newlyweds – here’s my tips for a
happy normal marriage. Oh and darling husband, I hope you’re taking notes…
♥ Make time for each other. Modern life is so busy and with work being constantly at our fingertips (we are all guilty of being welded to our smart phones I’m sure) and busy social lives it’s quite easy to go almost a full week without spending time as a couple, which is odd as your husband/wife is the person you’ve chosen to share your entire life with!
♥ Contradicting the above…(who know marriage would be full of contradictions eh?) have some separate interests. There’s nothing better than coming home after a night with the girls at
wine book club and filling my Mr in on all the gossip. And nothing makes my ears bleed more than if it’s been a dull week and we end up talking shop all night.
♥ Don’t get too comfortable. There’s only so much slobbing around we can handle before we start to resemble Wayne & Waynetta…sweat pants are acceptable in our home but socks with holes, pants with lose elastic and too many dinners in front of the TV we’re heading for trouble. It’s just not sexy.
♥ And whilst we’re on the subject of s-e-x (don’t worry I won’t be giving you too much insight into our boho bonks!) how’s about gents, you stop expecting your wives to undress themselves and to simply be revved up and ready to go at a moments notice. One word husbands, ROMANCE. It’s not like back in your old single days you would spend an evening mute, in front of the telly and some bird would just come along, drop her knickers and pounce on you!!!
♥ Choose your battles. Say’s it all really.
♥ Flirt. There’s nothing better than having a night out together enjoying each other as if you’ve only just met. We’ve just re-instated date night and initially all the chat was about either our son or general life. We still invariably chat about those things but also now reminisce about past experiences together and ask each other questions…I only recently found out that my hubster harbours a secret ambition to travel Japan – I had no idea he loved the culture so much!
♥ If in doubt always err on the side of comedy. Laugh. And then laugh some more.
Well that’s what I’ve come up with but I’m sure there’s plenty more…so I’d love to hear some of your top marriage tips too.
And if you are set to get wed soon, don’t be disheartened by this – marriage is absolutely like being one half of the ultimate team – but to be part of a winning side takes dedication, commitment, training and hard work as far as I’m concerned!
Love Sarah xx
Image via Milou & Olin
With the weather turning cold and drab I thought now might be the perfect opportunity to show off this crazy beautiful photo shoot. Perfect inspiration for a Boho Bride – edgy yet relaxed styling ideal for a beach wedding or festival wedding style – think field gathered flowers, statement jewellery stacked up high, tousled hair and of course a smokey eye.
Created as a collaboration between DISfunction Magazine, Christina Heaston Photography and Modern Weddings Hawaii I love that it showcases relaxed, confident and personal bridal style. Commit to your own personal style on your wedding day and you’ll look back so much happier than if you conformed to expectations of what a Bride ‘must’ look like.
What do you think? Did you/will you stay true to your personal style on your wedding day…or do you think there’s a time and a place? Spill…
Love Sarah xx
Credits: Christina Heaston Photography // DISfunkshion Magazine // Modern Weddings Hawaii // Headress, Wild & Free Jewelery // Rings/Cuffs, Gypsy River // Necklaces, Raptor Jewelery, Love & Leather // Flower Crown, Ina Dale // Feather Earrings, The Pixie Monster
I have to admit there are a few things I do regret about my own wedding…it wasn’t filmed *sob* and there were a few design details I ran out of time to organise, the main one being lighting. The right kind of wedding lighting can create so much ambience at your venue and where an abundance of festoon or fairy lights might have once looked out of place in more grand or urban surroundings, the more confident and eclectic brides of today have no qualms about including them in their schemes – hurrah!
I know it’s perhaps wishful thinking to believe we can completely emulate the outdoor wedding style of the US and Oz but where there’s a will there’s a way huh? And with more and more British weddings taking place in barns, town halls, deserted theatres and factories, there’s the scope to at least be inspired and make the look our own…
…So what do you think? Yay or nay for a wonderland of lights on your big day?
Love Sarah xx
Way back some 16 months ago when my little boy was a mere 2 weeks old, I rocked up to the incredible Pickwell Manor near Croyde and put my stylist head on for the day (no easy feat with husband and newborn in tow!) to work with a wonderful team of South West suppliers, creating an ‘era’s’ shoot to grace the pages of Wed Devon Magazine. It was photographer Lucy Shergold’s vision to create a shoot where we published the images entirely in black and white – directly influenced by the iconic images of John French – the strong poses reflecting the confidence of today’s modern bride with the feminine glamour of a bygone age…
Vintage inspired weddings are enormously popular with many brides today and it’s easy to see why; they are beautiful, elegant and impeccably detailed, but it was also important to us that we encouraged Bride’s to have the confidence to show elements of who they are – now. That you can create a wedding style that pays homage to the past in a very modern way.
Wedding dress designers Belle and Bunty and Caroline Fricker Couture (featured above) create gowns inspired by the golden age, represent your chosen era with a contemporary edge.
Wedding film maker Pete Cox captured the shoot for us beautifully…
LOVE IN THE TIME OF… from Pete Cox on Vimeo.
Models: Sophie Hellyer & Licha Parkhouse. Vendors : Venue, Pickwell Manor // Photographer, Lucy Shergold Photography // Hair, Claire Mathers Creative Wedding Hair // Make Up, Eve Ashby // Styling by Boho Bride // Dresses, Caroline Fricker Couture, Belle and Bunty via The Wedding Company // Accessories, Flo and Percy, Holly Young Hats and The Couture Veil // Jewellery, Kye Tew at The Ivory Secret. The shoot was styled for a feature in Wed Devon Magazine.
Are you a vintage wedding style lover? Would you pay ‘homage’ or do your best to truly emulate the era? I’d love to hear your thoughts…
Love Sarah xx
Today I have the great pleasure of introducing new sponsor Caroline Fricker Couture, designer of bespoke wedding dresses, handmade in Devon “using the finest taffetas, duchesse satins, embroidered organza’s and chiffons and stunning lace” to create contemporary, stylish and sophisticated gowns, featuring the most exquisite details…
Designed for Women – Made with Love
Having worked with Caroline Fricker on a photo shoot I styled I have seen and felt the dresses – the quality of her work, the intricacy of her designs and the attention to detail is simply mind-blowing. Caroline creates wedding dresses that I feel are incredibly feminine – they work with the soft curves of the feminine form, flattering and figure enhancing, even the most nervous of Brides would feel on top of the world in one of her gowns.
With over twenty years experience in the wedding industry, Caroline is utterly passionate about weddings and the design process and will do her upmost to ensure she is working with you to create the dress of your dreams…and what’s more, she has an incredible sense of humour, so there’s no doubt you’ll feel completely at ease in her company!
If you’d like to see more of Caroline’s work, have a browse of her website Caroline Fricker Couture or connect via her Facebook page
I’ll be showing off more of Caroline’s work when I publish our ‘Love In The Time Of…’ photo shoot for Wed Devon Magazine next week.
Also known as Chamelaucium Uncinatum, this dainty little shrub looks just a pretty as the sole star of a bouquet and buttonhole as it does paired with more ‘showy’ blooms. Generally available throughout the winter months (it’s native to Western Australia) it gives off a light and pleasant lemony fragrance and ranges from white to vibrant pink in colour. I adore seeing it used in flower crowns…
Image credits: 1. One Fab Day 2. Style Me Pretty 3. I Love Southern Weddings Mag 4. Sweet Violet Bride 5. Flowerona 6. Little Winter Bride
Are you familiar with waxflower? And if not, what do you think of this delicate bloom?
Love Sarah xx
A warm welcome to new Boho Bride sponsor Helen Lisk Photography, a South West based wedding photographer who specialises in the reportage style – telling the story of your wedding day and capturing intimate, magical moments that you can look back on remembering the emotions of your special day.
Being South West based myself I was already familiar with Helen’s work when she approached me about sponsorship – I have long admired her ability to catch a Bride and Groom looking at the most natural and relaxed. So, rather than try to analyse how she does this myself I asked Helen to take me through her creative process…
If you’d like to see more of Helen’s work have a browse of her website…and she can also be found on Facebook and Twitter.
So what do you think? Pretty breath-taking huh?
Love Sarah xx
I love seeing wedding inspiration that’s an attainable style – a look real brides-to-be might be able to draw from and make their own…and it’s precisely that which drew me to publish this beautiful shoot. Photographer Alexandra Wallace was inspired by the “Urban Outfitters generation” who have the vision to create beautiful and evocative events but perhaps lack budget…well as they say – you can’t buy style!
Photographer: Alexandra Wallace //Makeup Artist: Ariel Hairstylist/Make-up //Floral Designer: Eden floral //Invitation Designer: Invitations by Alecia //Rings: Karen Hazarian Jewelry //Macaroons: Miaou Macarons //Bowtie and Banner: Nostalgia at High Tea //Hair Stylist: The Hair Lounge. Shoot submitted via Two Bright Lights
I’m loving the military books teamed with soft lace…and the home grown style of the florals, so pretty! So what do you think?
Love Sarah xx