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The One Where I Accept That I Can’t Do It All…

I have always had extremely high hopes for our wedding; perhaps a little too much ambition style wise. You see, writing this blog has been the most wonderful experience whilst planning my own wedding, but it is also a bit of a duel edged sword…I see so much pretty and am inspired by so many other creative Bride’s, that I have tried to include it all in our own wedding…

I have failed. It occurred to me this weekend, as I tried to juggle multiple diy projects, whilst acknowledging that I’ve yet to confirm some quite major details (haven’t even sorted wedding cake yet!) that somethings gotta give…and I think that something(s) needs to be some of the ‘details’ that, if I hadn’t had this moment of clarity, might have made our wedding look a little OTT and ‘overdone’.

Instead, I’m focusing on the elements that really give me design love palpitations – the one’s that are more ‘us’ than general wedding trends. And it feels really good….and such a relief. So I guess what I’m trying to say is stay true to your signature styles as a couple. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, step back from your plans and step away from your various ‘look books’ and wedding files and think about what really fits for you.

At the end of the day, it all comes down to having your wedding, your way.

With {less than three weeks to go!} Love, Boho Bride xx

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  • my honest answer August 30, 2011, 11:15 am

    This is a great revelation!

    Also, despite all the time I spent choosing flowers and designing menus, and going over all the tiny details, I found that when it came to putting the album together I didn’t want pictures of all that. I thought I did because that’s what you see on blogs and in magazines, stunning pictures of gorgeous details. But actually, when it was a choice between including a picture of a dear friend, or a close up of a place-card, I realised what was really important to me. So I think you’re right on track about not making it all too styled. Glad you’ve found a bit of zen!

  • Caroline Starrs August 31, 2011, 10:22 am

    Oh I couldn’t agree more!! I was plodding about with making some doily bunting which was very pretty but I had no idea where it was going to go given that I have already secured and paid to hire 50 metres of bunting. I sat there and asked myself was I doing this to feel that I had handmade something, did I need this? A couple of times a week, me and the other half go to our local for a couple of drinks and a wedding catch up. We’ve agreed that order of day leaflets are unnecessary (we will write it on a board) as are separate menus (another board for that), jam favours are hard work, sweet buffets are only good if you have the cash for loads of sweets and jars, making cakes will be stressful so just go and get some cupcakes from M&S and a guest book with pretty paper will be easier than a photobooth. We went to a wedding this weekend and it kicked in even more how much people don’t notice things so we are going to do things that really mean things to us, there will be a couple of DIY efforts just not unmeaningful attempts. I do hope there are some photos of these though because we would have worked really hard for them and would be nice to show the grand kids what gran and grandad spent hours working towards when they got married 🙂

    P.S still no idea for favours! x

  • admin September 4, 2011, 3:27 pm

    Hi Caroline,

    Funnily enough doily bunting was on my original hit list….why?! I’m not even that into it – like you, I wanted to create some diy! Silly really…its far too much pressure to put on ourselves!

    Everything we’re including in our day now, diy and all is something we feel passionately about and it we don’t – it’s not being included!

    I hope you’re plans are going well. Enjoy and here’s to a wonderful – personal – wedding xxx

  • Kate Fletcher September 6, 2011, 7:02 pm

    This is exactly how it should be. xx