Someones Girlfriend, Someones Fiancee, SomeonesWife

August 22, 2011  

After 18 months of being engaged and around nine months of official planning, it has finally dawned on me that following our September nuptials I am actually going to be someones wife. Which begs the question, aside from my change of status, what will actually change, if anything?

I have been in a relationship with my beloved for a whole decade. Hard to believe when we look back at photo’s that those fresh-faced teenagers are indeed us…and things were starkly different then. Every feeling felt ‘intense’ – not just the love, but the the pain too…the angst over every harsh word, the constant need to ‘interperet’ what’s been said as if we were always talking to each other in code. Every time a couple we knew broke up…we’d always then have to thrash out whether we could in fact be the next ‘doomed’ pair….gah, it exhausts me to think about it now!

Happy times of course {well we were young and fearless and threw ourselves in to everything feet first!} but once drama school was over, our relationship evolved in a different way. Now twenty-somethings, we bought our first home and set about ‘playing house’. Work was erratic, money was tight and we no longer felt the need to socialise. Too wrapped up in our new status as co-habitee’s, we adopted our eldest fur baby Milo and spent our weekends curled up on the sofa, under a blanket with the cat – eating and watching films. We like to call that our ‘comfy’ stage. We both put on about two stone. I’m still trying to work the last 8 pounds off.

The next stage was the ‘growing’ stage, where we both explored our individuality. I guess this is the time when things can either make or break – ironically it was around the seven year mark. We were lucky though, having moved closer to the S.West and Wales {Reading} so each of us could travel home more, we became quite independant of each other – but rather than that factor pushing us apart – it was like we found each other even more interesting; there was more to talk about and I guess we grew together and found more reasons for our love to deepen.

I still find my OH thirst for knowledge massively appealing – he’s a self made man and works damn hard to continually learn new skills. And I know he really appreciates how I throw myself into things and then figure out how to make it work. Throughout the time mentioned above, we learnt a lot about each other and the kind of people we were growing into during this stage. It was a challenging, but brilliant time.

And then came settled. A blissful chapter that still stands – when you know who who are as both individuals and a couple – and what you’re about. Where you’re no longer looking over your shoulder to see what others are doing, or care about what they think. That bit where you appreciate yourselves for the people you’ve become; this is me, this is us and this is how we roll. Ah, if we could only go back a reassure our teen selves!

So given that we’ve settled into this happy and confident state – what’s going to change? Well, despite me once protesting that marriage doesn’t mean squat if you’re already committed to each other – I do feel a little different already. It might sound shallow – but by standing in front of each other to make those vows, I am expecting a subtle change in our dynamic. He will be my husband and I will be his wife and that tells the world that we hold each other in a higher regard than anyone else on this earth. And we don’t just get to celebrate that together, but all our other favourite people will be there to celebrate with us too.

I’m so excited about our wedding day now – and I really can’t wait to become someones wife.

With Love Boho Bride xx


11 Responses to “Someones Girlfriend, Someones Fiancee, SomeonesWife”
  1. Juliette says:

    Another tear-jerker (in a good way). You’re so right to be excited and we can’t wait to witness your special moment and celebrate with you both, bring it on xx

  2. admin says:

    Ah, thanks Ju – I’ve been getting very sentimental of late! Can’t believe it’s happening so soon – looking forward to seeing you!!! Love to all xx

  3. Jo says:

    Ahh, this is lovely Sarah.
    Reminds me of a Dolly Parton song I love (ssshhh, don’t tell anyone – I’m going to see her next Friday!) called ‘(I want to be) Somebody’s Everything’.
    Not long to go now!!

  4. admin says:

    Haha thanks Jo – you’re secrets safe with me…though she is rather fabulous!!! xx

  5. Nikki @Knotsandkisses says:

    Such a lovely post hon! I’m sure you’re going to feel even better about your relationship once your married, if thats possible!
    Not long to go now! x

  6. Caroline Starrs says:

    It’s so exciting! We had a wobble (a great one though) when we filled in the forms for the registrar…”How do you want to be referred to at the end of the ceremony?”…”Mr and Mrs…” It was so mad we both looked at each other and laughed – it’s really happening!!


  7. admin says:

    Thanks Caroline – you’re new blog loks fab! When’s your big day? x

  8. Caroline Starrs says:

    We’re getting married October 8th so quite soon after you! I’m at that stage where I just want to do it now if I see anymore inspiration I might pop, I want to do everything!…doesn’t stop me from looking though I’m my own worst enemy :) x

  9. freckles says:

    Just wanted to say that I hope the next four weeks go as smoothly as can be, I’m sure it will be an emotion filled, fun filled, (tiny bit of stress filled) time but it sounds like you alredy know it will all be worth it soon :)
    I’m a terrible ‘commenter’ (is that even a word?!) as in I have never commented before…but I have been following your blog since januray (a few weeks after gettig engaged myself) and I’m very excited for you. Please please share more of these personal thoughts etc in the run up to your wedding (if you have time) as this is my favorite part! x

  10. admin says:

    Congrats Caroline – not long at all! Please keep me posted on your plans, I bet it’ll be stunning! Xx

  11. admin says:

    Thank you so much Freckles…you comment makes all the hard work and late nights so worthwhile, you’ve really made my day! I hope to post more in the lead up to W-day as I know how much I love hearing from other planning brides too! I hope your plans are going well – huge congratulations and thanks for you lovely words and support xx

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