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In Pursuit of {Wedding} Happiness

I’d describe myself as quite a laid-back person, easy-going and not one to ‘stress’ too much, but there’s something about planning a wedding that alters how you deal with things…and this past week I’ve aknowledged that I’m in danger of becoming one of those people in pursuit of happiness, rather than someone embracing the happiness of the here and now!

Fairly minor upsets, like the double booking of wedding suppliers,  is something I thought I’d brush off – yet I’ve turned them into major ‘issues’, snotting and bawling my way through emails requesting hurried quotes from others, whilst claiming my fiance will never understand how my “vision” of our ‘perfect’ day is slipping away….

So imagine how blindsided I felt to hear my Groom state that he believed no matter how much I pain-stakingly organised our wedding, it would be far from perfect! But, I have to admit, after hearing him out – I actually think he has a point!

He argued that it was madness to try and define the ‘best day of our lives’ in one day and when I pointed out that I was actually trying to create the perfect weekend – he scoffed at me again! You see, I’ve been trying to create this amazing, three day event – not just for ourselves, but for our guests too…as if I could somehow control how they’d feel!

That’s a lot of pressure to put on a celebration…and I realise now, a huge disservice to our loved ones….who come rain or shine, will make the best of our wedding. Why? Because they love us.

It also made me realise how close I’ve become to sabotaging my own celebration – and as for my wedding “vision”…? I do recall writing on here, many posts ago, should “wild horses stampede the venue and ruin my shabby chic dreams – who cares? Life too short”. Indeed. And so is a wedding day.

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  • Kate Fletcher February 16, 2011, 9:39 am

    Too true! I always say ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’. Your day will be amazing whatever happens along the way. x

  • Wedding Muse February 16, 2011, 10:29 am

    Too right! The day will go in a flash and all your current hiccups will be long forgotten. Many a bridezilla should take a leaf out of your book. Great post.

  • admin February 16, 2011, 10:42 am

    Thanks ladies! As I sit here and type I’ve a ‘Keep Calm and Carry On’ mug of tea in hand…my new mantra xx

  • Paul Roland Williams February 16, 2011, 11:07 am

    Your “hubby to be” sounds like a very sensible and/or brave chap! Either way, a good choice.

  • admin February 16, 2011, 11:13 am

    Haha…fearless! Thanks for the comment Paul – love your beautiful work!

  • Paul Roland Williams February 16, 2011, 1:28 pm

    Thanks Sarah. If you see anything you’d like to use or feature give me a shout…..I like to share!

  • Melanie East Photo February 16, 2011, 4:09 pm

    You’ll have a wonderful day no matter what. I promise.

  • Orly February 16, 2011, 4:15 pm

    It really is, on that note did you get a band? You will have the wedding of your dreams because you are doing it your way. Big hugs you will crack it.

    Mwah
    O x

  • admin February 16, 2011, 4:29 pm

    Thanks Melanie – us Brides should take a step bk sometimes + remember what matters most is that we’re marrying our best friend! X
    Orly, looks like we have – but I’m scared to relax till the deposit is paid…might jinx us! Thanks for your support X

  • Laura Daly February 16, 2011, 7:37 pm

    I’m so glad that you have realised this in time! I see so many lovely girls get totally lost in the small stuff before their weddings , losing sight of the bigger picture and the REAL reason that they are getting married , and transforming into people that even their nearest and dearest don’t recognize.
    Your wedding will be wonderful whatever, you will look beautiful even if the ribbon on the invites doesn’t match the bridesmaids knickers and no one will know ( or care) if the caterer has dented your cake. Your groom loves you for you, and not for all the fluffy wedding stuff, so kick back, pour a glass of fizz and enjoy this once in a lifetime moment in your life xxxxx

  • Laura Daly February 16, 2011, 7:38 pm

    And I wish you both love laughter and a long and happy life together xxxxx

  • admin February 16, 2011, 7:50 pm

    Thanks for such lovely comments Laura and great advice too! xxx