I’d describe myself as quite a laid-back person, easy-going and not one to ‘stress’ too much, but there’s something about planning a wedding that alters how you deal with things…and this past week I’ve aknowledged that I’m in danger of becoming one of those people in pursuit of happiness, rather than someone embracing the happiness of the here and now!
Fairly minor upsets, like the double booking of wedding suppliers, is something I thought I’d brush off – yet I’ve turned them into major ‘issues’, snotting and bawling my way through emails requesting hurried quotes from others, whilst claiming my fiance will never understand how my “vision” of our ‘perfect’ day is slipping away….
So imagine how blindsided I felt to hear my Groom state that he believed no matter how much I pain-stakingly organised our wedding, it would be far from perfect! But, I have to admit, after hearing him out – I actually think he has a point!
He argued that it was madness to try and define the ‘best day of our lives’ in one day and when I pointed out that I was actually trying to create the perfect weekend – he scoffed at me again! You see, I’ve been trying to create this amazing, three day event – not just for ourselves, but for our guests too…as if I could somehow control how they’d feel!
That’s a lot of pressure to put on a celebration…and I realise now, a huge disservice to our loved ones….who come rain or shine, will make the best of our wedding. Why? Because they love us.
It also made me realise how close I’ve become to sabotaging my own celebration – and as for my wedding “vision”…? I do recall writing on here, many posts ago, should “wild horses stampede the venue and ruin my shabby chic dreams – who cares? Life too short”. Indeed. And so is a wedding day.
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