This last week of wedding planning has been the most fun yet, as I’m starting to book and create all of the fun stuff that’ll make our wedding unique! It has inspired me to write a little about how to set about gathering wedding ideas to create a day that’s as individual as you are! Here’s my top tips for getting started on your special day…
Think about the time of year – when booking your wedding date, have a think about the time of year that you feel connected to as a couple. Just because Summer tends to be ‘wedding season’ it doesn’t mean your day needs to fall during the sunny months. We’ve chosen September as we met in the Autumn and both love the colour palette…I’m also v.fair and allergic to wasp stings…so I’d be in danger of getting burnt or worse still, sporting hives on a Summer wedding day.
Stuck for ideas at first? Find a venue that you love and led it lead your initial plans…there’s not point in shoe-horning a vintage inspired art deco day into a farm-yard setting after all! You can find inspiration in the unlikeliest of places…an orchard can offer a wedding awash with zesty colours and fruit themed details, or the history of a venue can also dictate the style…a Georgian manor house lends itself perfectly to an Austen inspired day!
Do some word association with your man – each write down ten things that immediately spring to mind, when you think of your wedding day…it’ll help you prioritise what’s important and should also ensure that you both get involved. We realised that a relaxing atmosphere, good food and free booze were our biggest priority!
Filter. There will be expectations and opinions from family and friends that will confuse you. So, your second cousin is expecting her kid to be Bridesmaid, your brother thinks a cravat is the epitome of wedding style and your Mother-in-Law wants her best mate to make the cake…smile, say “thanks for the offer/your opinion/input – I haven’t worked out the details yet/I’ve already booked that…we’re going in a different direction” and then avoid the subject for the next nine months. That might not be the most mature way of dealing with things…but it’s what I’m sticking too!
Keep evolving your wedding ideas! Details will change as the months pass. Try to adapt with them – compromise without sacrificing too much. You’ll sleep better for it.
ENJOY! This should be the last time you plan your own wedding *fingers crossed* – and most marrieds tell me it passes very quickly…so relish the planning process, after all, it’s probably the biggest event you’ll ever be the centre of!