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Getting the balance right…

Morning all,

I write this post wrapped within the comfort of my duvet as I have been confined to bed-rest by my doctor. The last few days have been horrible as I’ve been battling with a chest infection that has brought me to my knee’s – and it’s the scariness of this afternoon’s events and a life-affirming moment that soon followed that inspired me to write this post…

I have quite simply burnt my candle at both ends. Nearly six months pregnant and juggling full time hours as a content/copy writer as well as setting up my styling business and writing the blog I have spent the last three months working 13 hour days; all-the-while investing precious energy into my most exciting and beloved challenge yet – motherhood.

It took a strong and worried word from my big brother (who usually pools his energy into taking the mick out of me) to realise I needed to ask for some help and admit that I wasn’t coping too well. In fact, this is how stupid things got…aside from my roaring temperature and watery chest, I hadn’t felt my usual baby flutterings for over 24 hrs. I was worried but also sure the Dr would think I was not only paranoid but ‘weak’  I hadn’t acted on my anxieties.

An emergency apt ensued and we had a hairy few minutes where the Dr couldn’t locate baby’s heartbeat (we found it eventually – thank God!) and it all transpired that my body was so full of infection and so tired from all the extra work it’s having to do I was putting two lives at risk. I was then quite severley told off by my Doctor who has insisted I take a few days off to let my body heal…

Well, sitting here in bed has got me thinking about how us women tend to put such enormous pressures on ourselves. Yes I believe we can achieve beyond plenty and should strive to…but when it all gets a bit too much to juggle, why do we find it so hard to admit?

I am working with five brides at the moment, all of which have contacted me nearing the final stretch of their wedding plans, flustered, stressed and apologetic for needing my help so ‘late in the day’ - I find it very hard to hear Brides being so hard on themselves when you know they’ve already achieved so much and are in the midst of such important plans…

So here’s my message to all my women-folk readers – there is nothing wrong with asking for help – and there is nothing wrong with needing some time out to sit back, take stock and let your mind and body relax…lets ease up a little and reward ourselves with a bit of R&R every now and then.

…Oh, and the life-affirming bit – well about an hour after retuning home, quietly sat on the sofa I felt my first big kick from baby – a real belter and my husband finally got to feel a kick too. Baby’s timing couldn’t have been more perfect.

Anyways, lecture over…I’m off to flip my pillow over to the cold side and enjoy the calming buzz of our cats purrs.

With Love,

Sarah, Boho Bride xx

{ 10 comments… add one }

  • my honest answer November 29, 2011, 10:26 am

    Feel better soon! Look after yourself and that baby, you hear?

  • Jo@bigloveweddings November 29, 2011, 10:35 am

    this brings back memories and makes me teary!! Amen to all that you’ve said!! Our little ones are precious and WE ARE PRECIOUS! We all need help and we all need time out-and it’s OK to need it, to want it , to demand it (if need be) and take it. Healing vibes coming your way….

  • admin November 29, 2011, 10:41 am

    Oh thanks ladies! My Mr gave me a total of 1 hr on the laptop today…and I’ve promised I’ll put it away now…so thank you for your kind words…Off to mooch xxx

  • Sarah Toomey November 29, 2011, 11:02 am

    hope you feel better very soon Sarah xxx

  • Johanna (summer love) November 29, 2011, 11:58 am

    I read this as I have a full on duvet day in my scruffs, catching up on greys anatomy feeling absolutly exhausted that I can’t describe! So I can relate to your post so much today, why do we push ourselves to the limit? Look after yourself and that little bundle of love and get better soon Sarah! Xxx

  • MrsA-to-be November 29, 2011, 12:23 pm

    Hear hear! Get better soon Sarah. I had to take a day off work yesterday, and felt terrible for doing so – I always think people will think I’m just pulling a sickie, because so many people actually do that!

    Re: your cat. THeir purring is actually believed to have healing properties that can boost your immune system! Who knows if it’s true, but I like the idea!


  • Eleanor November 29, 2011, 4:27 pm

    Dearest Sarah and bump, look after yourself and get mucho better soon. I’m glad all is well after what must have been THE most horrid scare! Take care and rest up x x x

  • Louise November 29, 2011, 5:32 pm

    Wow! Get some rest….
    And some lemsip

  • admin November 29, 2011, 5:37 pm

    Thank you ladies – I’ve had such a relaxing day and hubby’s on his way home to cook dinner. Thanks so much for your lovely messages xxx

  • Kate Fletcher December 1, 2011, 1:07 pm

    Just catching up on you! Hope you have been following doctors orders. I’ve been ‘crook’ with cold and chest infection for three weeks now but haven’t stopped either. Not sure why we put ourselves through it. But I’m not pregnant – so you definitely should rest. I’ll be watching! xxx

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